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It’s “where are you now?” month at Ask a Manager, and all December I’m running updates from people who had their letters here answered in the past. Remember the letter-writer asking if it would look unprofessional to have stickers on their wheelchair at work (#3 at the link)? Here’s the update. Now that I have […]

• manager came to work with Covid, can I have stickers on my wheelchair, and more
• my employee uses a wheelchair ... but I found out he doesn't really need one
• my coworkers keep trying to find out what my chronic illness is

This post was written by Alison Green and published on Ask a Manager.

It’s “where are you now?” month at Ask a Manager, and all December I’m running updates from people who had their letters here answered in the past. Here are four updates from past letter-writers. 1. My younger coworker thinks I don’t know anything about computers (#2 at the link) I followed your advice and sat […]

• my company won't pay us if we don't install spy software on our personal computers
• I took a job with less responsibility -- and my coworkers treat me like I have no experience
• coworkers message me “hi” with nothing else, younger coworker thinks I'm tech-illiterate, and more

This post was written by Alison Green and published on Ask a Manager.

It’s “where are you now?” month at Ask a Manager, and all December I’m running updates from people who had their letters here answered in the past. Here are five updates from past letter-writers. There will be more posts than usual this week, so keep checking back throughout the day. 1. My 2 dating employees […]

• my 2 dating employees are cuddling in staff meetings
• unvaccinated employees are complaining about a $100 bonus for getting vaccinated
• I desperately need breaks between my back-to-back meetings

This post was written by Alison Green and published on Ask a Manager.

It’s “where are you now?” month at Ask a Manager, and all December I’m running updates from people who had their letters here answered in the past. There will be more posts than usual this week, so keep checking back throughout the day. Remember the letter-writer who organized orgies and wanted to know if they […]

• I organize orgies -- can I talk about it in my job hunt?
• friend drama may collide with job hunt
• I wrote a Glassdoor review and the employer is losing their minds

This post was written by Alison Green and published on Ask a Manager.

A reader writes: My team recently hired a part-time assistant, Jane, to help with my work. The problem I’m running into is that Jane either doesn’t know how to prioritize or doesn’t understand that certain things need to be prioritized even if I explicitly tell her “this task needs to be completed before you do […]

• my coworker wants me to do all the work he sends me ASAP, even when I have higher priorities
• how do I ask the CEO if I can "borrow" his assistant for my projects?
• am I really supposed to bug my coworkers to get my projects handled?

This post was written by Alison Green and published on Ask a Manager.

It’s “where are you now?” month at Ask a Manager, and all December I’m running updates from people who had their letters here answered in the past. There will be more posts than usual this week, so keep checking back throughout the day. Remember the letter-writer who found out their company secretly gives parents thousands […]

• my company secretly gives parents thousands of extra dollars in benefits
• am I too generous with my employees?
• my company makes me front thousands of dollars on my personal credit card

This post was written by Alison Green and published on Ask a Manager.

I’m on vacation. Here are some past letters that I’m making new again, rather than leaving them to wilt in the archives. 1. My friend/client won’t pay my cancellation fee I have a friend who I met because we both enjoy certain sports. I’ll call him Frank. I only see Frank when I am involved […]

• my client won't pay my cancellation fee, company asked us to donate a kidney to a board member, and more
• my employee relocated and didn't tell me
• I'm caught in the middle of an investigation at work

This post was written by Alison Green and published on Ask a Manager.

It’s “where are you now?” month at Ask a Manager, and all December I’m running updates from people who had their letters here answered in the past. Here are five updates from past letter-writers. 1. I reported a coworker for hitting a child (#2 at the link) I figured out after doing some more research […]

• interviewer asked what brings me pain, I reported a coworker for hitting a child, and more
• what's reasonable for managers to expect of parents working from home?
• my boss expects me to babysit her rambunctious kid

This post was written by Alison Green and published on Ask a Manager.

It’s “where are you now?” month at Ask a Manager, and all December I’m running updates from people who had their letters here answered in the past. Here are four updates from past letter-writers. There will be more posts than usual this week, so keep checking back throughout the day. 1. My best friend is […]

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This post was written by Alison Green and published on Ask a Manager.

It’s “where are you now?” month at Ask a Manager, and all December I’m running updates from people who had their letters here answered in the past. Here are four updates from past letter-writers. There will be more posts than usual this week, so keep checking back throughout the day. 1. My neighbor, her nephew, […]

• a dog-sitting job gone bad, delayed approval for time off, and more
• a coworker is harassing my neighbor (who is having chemo)
• can I ask my coworkers why they didn’t hire my daughter?

This post was written by Alison Green and published on Ask a Manager.

A reader writes: I lead a manufacturing business that I co-founded over a decade ago. It turned its first profit recently, but all this time, we as the owners have taken care of everyone by taking colossal personal debt and making incredible sacrifices, including working ourselves an average of 60 hours a week. We have […]

• should people who sell MLM products put "business owner" on their resumes?
• am I too generous with my employees?
• how can I hire people when my company won't negotiate on salary or remote work?

This post was written by Alison Green and published on Ask a Manager.

It’s “where are you now?” month at Ask a Manager, and all December I’m running updates from people who had their letters here answered in the past. There will be more posts than usual this week, so keep checking back throughout the day. Remember the letter-writer asking if she could do anything about an aggressive-driver […]

• my coworker is a terrible driver -- and I have to ride with him on work trips
• my new employee ran a background check on me and asked me about what he found
• I caught my coworker masturbating at his desk

This post was written by Alison Green and published on Ask a Manager.

I’m on vacation. Here are some past letters that I’m making new again, rather than leaving them to wilt in the archives. 1. My boss got drunk and was angry that I couldn’t drive him back to the office I have been working at my job (a Fortune 500 company) for nine months, after I […]

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• my boss drinks and expects me to drive with him
• my coworker/friend keeps coming to work drunk

This post was written by Alison Green and published on Ask a Manager.

It’s “where are you now?” month at Ask a Manager, and all December I’m running updates from people who had their letters here answered in the past. Here are four updates from past letter-writers. 1. How do I tell coworkers I’m married when they don’t think I am? (#2 at the link) Your advice was […]

• my coworker told everyone we're married ... we're not even dating
• my husband's boss/our friend is sleeping with their married department head
• my coworker keeps joking that I'm having sex with my husband in the office

This post was written by Alison Green and published on Ask a Manager.

It’s “where are you now?” month at Ask a Manager, and all December I’m running updates from people who had their letters here answered in the past. Here are four updates from past letter-writers. There will be more posts than usual this week, so keep checking back throughout the day. 1. An industry colleague is […]

• an industry colleague is lying to me about a dispute we had years ago
• employee is demanding Diet Coke as a religious accommodation, desk is covered with photos of feet, and more
• coworker says she loves shoplifting, asking to take over a specific person's job, and more

This post was written by Alison Green and published on Ask a Manager.

It’s “where are you now?” month at Ask a Manager, and all December I’m running updates from people who had their letters here answered in the past. There will be more posts than usual this week, so keep checking back throughout the day. In 2018, I printed a letter from someone asking whether they should […]

• boss invited our whole office on a 10-day cruise, I had a disturbing dream about an employee, and more
• coworkers crashed my networking party, new hire wants to print everything, and more
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This post was written by Alison Green and published on Ask a Manager.

Welcome to “where are you now?” season at Ask a Manager! Between now and the end of the year, I’ll be running updates from people who had their letters here answered in the past. A heads-up about update season: for the next few weeks I’ll be posting at midnight, 11 am, 12:30 pm, 2 pm, […]

• update: I ghosted my ex, and she’s about to be my new boss
• update: my dad is dating my boss, and they want me to go to couples therapy with them
• where are they now: update #1 - the new HR rep with no help

This post was written by Alison Green and published on Ask a Manager.

It’s “where are you now?” month at Ask a Manager, and all December I’m running updates from people who had their letters here answered in the past. There will be more posts than usual this week, so keep checking back throughout the day. Remember the letter-writer asking whether to tell an employee she needed to […]

• should I tell my employee she needs to give a clearer "no" to a client who's interested in her?
• are these men hitting on me via LinkedIn or are they legit business contacts?
• I yelled at my employees and they walked out

This post was written by Alison Green and published on Ask a Manager.

I’m on vacation. Here are some past letters that I’m making new again, rather than leaving them to wilt in the archives. And then later today, updates season begins! 1. My former tenant’s “manager” is requesting money for her time spent on a lease dispute I have been in conflict with a former tenant (Sara) […]

• am I being considered for too many jobs, my former tenant's manager is requesting money from me, and more
• visible bra lines at work, boss keeps winking at me, and more
• I sacrificed for my boyfriend’s business and might get nothing, renting a house from my boss, and more

This post was written by Alison Green and published on Ask a Manager.

This comment section is open for any non-work-related discussion you’d like to have with other readers, by popular demand. Here are the rules for the weekend posts. Book recommendation of the week: Trust and Safety, by Laura Blackett and Eve Gleichman. Sick of NYC and searching for a more meaningful life, a couple buy a dilapidated […]

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